Frequently Asked Questions
Frequently Asked Questions about Collaborative Divorce
- What is Collaborative Divorce?
- How does it work?
- Is it right for me?
- What is the difference between collaborative divorce and litigation?
- Is it expensive?
1. What is Collaborative Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce is a new, non-adversarial, method for divorcing couples to resolve their disputes in a respectful and fair manner without going to court.
The goal is to help separating and divorcing couples to focus on their goals so they can make decisions that allow them to keep moving forward while protecting their family.
Each client has their own attorney to represent their interests. In addition, a divorce coach or coaches may become part of the team to facilitate communication between the couple and assist in addressing emotional concerns that can often derail progress. A financial specialist who acts as a neutral for the couple can assist in analyzing the present and future financial needs of the family by gathering data and running projections. When children are involved, a child specialist can be enlisted so that they have a voice in the process and to ensure their needs are properly addressed. It is your team to assemble to best meet your goals.
Yes, if you want a dignified, respectful resolution of issues and are willing to concentrate on reaching solutions rather than assessing blame.
Yes, If you want to co-parent in the best interest of your child(ren) and protect them from the negative impact of a bitter divorce.
Yes, if you want to maintain communication and a working relationship with your former spouse.
Yes, if you want to make decisions about your financial future and parenting rather than have a stranger (Judge or court official) make these decisions for you.
Yes, if you want your divorce issue addressed in a private office rather than a public courtroom.
4. What is the difference between collaborative divorce and litigation?
With a collaborative divorce you have control over the process and the outcome. You and your spouse make the decisions, not a Judge.
You are part of a collaborating team that works together toward mutually beneficial solutions for critical problems rather than attacking and being attacked in order to "win".
You choose experts, if needed, rather than have a judge appoint strangers to determine what's best for you and your children.
You make your decisions in a supportive atmosphere at your own pace, not at the last minute in the hallway outside the courtroom.
The cost of collaborative divorce is usually far less expensive than litigation because:
- There is only one court appearance to present your agreement and have your marriage dissolved
- the use of additional professionals prevents duplication of services
- the process saves time as it is efficient and productive due to the unique structure of the team
- there are no lengthy expensive child custody studies as the child specialist and/or coaches assist the parents in reaching decisions on custody and visitation concerns